Sad Girl
On Wednesdays, The Girl goes to daycare, and for some reason the last few weeks she's been really sad about going: tears and everything.
Usually The Lady drops her off, but today I got to do it: the hope was that she'd be less upset if Daddy was dropping her off, rather than Mommy. Didn't work.
Because it had been a while, I was only 80% sure of which room was hers. So, I asked her, "Is this one your room?"
"That not my room," she sobbed. "My room at home!"
A language thing: different meanings.
--GG
posted by Gye Greene @ 10:02 PM
3 Comments:
The first thing I would think of is that either she is being abused at that daycare, or that there is SOMETHING downright unpleasant about it. Especially if before she was fine with going there, and now she isn't. Any new employees? Any new "parents helping out" that might be abusing her? Any new (unpleasant) kids?
Why don't you ask her what she does and doesn't like about the day care? Also, if the problem continues, what I would do if it were MY daughter, is spend the entire day there (I know that she goes to daycare for a REASON that day, and it would be hard to get that day off--but maybe a Monday? or some other day?), and THEN ask her how the day went.
I used to work in a day care, and it always made me happy to see very young children happy to go home. And it greatly troubled me to see very young children UNHAPPY to see their parents come to pick them up!
Giov,
Yeah, that was my first thought (being the paranoid person that I am), when this pattern of behavior started a few weeks ago.
The Lady, however, pointed out that she'd been fine **before** the twins were born -- and also that she used to go two days a week (and had some friends there), whereas now, because she's only going one day a week, she didn't seem to be spending time with other little ones like she used to.
What I didn't mention in my blog post is that I hung around after dropping her off and looked through the window. She seemed fine after I left -- helping one of the teachers lay out the supplies for the morning project. And when The Lady came to pick her up, rather than wanting to dash out the door ASAP, The Girl lingered, showing The Lady all the different things they did that day.
So, hopefully we've turned a corner.
But, thx for the observations/suggestions.
--GG
My children, (daughter especially), both did the same thing at daycare during various times. Generally it signalled some change--could be cutting a tooth, new student/teacher, new relationship. Every time I checked it out, it turned out to be the kiddo's way of dealing with a change, but it sure is hard on mom! I spent a few mornings crying in the parking lot after dropping 'em off, thinking I was probably the worst parent in the world! Then, I'd pick 'em up and they'd not want to leave. Kids!
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